Having Fun Playing Kickball and The 90 Day Game

About a month ago I started playing The 90 Game. Here is the description of this wonderful process on the website: “The 90-Day Game creates the environment to evoke your greatness through case studies, imagination, metaphor, and a rich set of tools, templates, checklists and exercises help to guide you every step of the way.” I feel grateful to be playing the game with my friends Sky Masters and Mike Murphy from San Diego, with the coaching help of John Felitto, the creator of the game.

Playing the game has enriched my life immensely because I am encouraged to play more. Through reading and practicing the materials,  I can justify playing more because finally I realize that having fun actually helps me be more creative and productive which are attributes I highly value.

Even though I  had a big project I wanted to work on yesterday, I decided to say “yes” to an invitation to play in a kickball tournament to raise money for medical expenses for a young friend Wesley who has MPS.

At first I was reluctant to commit what could possibly be a full day of playing kickball which is a sport I had not played since I was in elementary school 40 years ago, and I didn’t have much passion for the game. But I realized that I would get to spend time with my family and friends, be able to support a good cause, and maybe even be renewed and refreshed so I could accomplish more in less time to accomplish my goal.

I was SO glad I attended this event.  Most of the team members were ages 17-26, with the exception of my former husband, Cliff, who is 71 and Maggie Ciocco who is about 45.  In order to stay in the game, we had to have at least 3 girls  playing, and they had a hard time finding females who wanted to participate. So the other players were happy that I was able to participate.

I found myself really yearning to win, because we had very little experience playing kick ball. And we did win our first game against a team that we later learned had only been playing 2 weeks. That meant we would play at least two more games. I didn’t pray that we would win, though. I prayed for all the things that actually did happen described below.

The day was rich with lessons and connections. Playing many hours of volleyball in the past with these same people had increased our ability to play as a team. I used to attend the same church as the team members, and I had known some of these kids for fifteen years. I was amazed at their maturity. When the umpire seemed to call a play incorrectly, with dignity they acquiesced. One young man showed effective coaching skills when he encouraged us even though we lost. “Look, these guys are really good, and they only beat us by five points. We gave them a good fight.” We found out later that the team was in the tier one league, meaning they were some of the best players in the league. No matter what kind of mistakes were made, no one criticized anyone. In fact, words like, “good try,” were common.

We prayed as a team before the first and the third game. My son, Chris, noticed that we were more peaceful when we played the first game when we prayed. The second game was less peaceful in his eyes. So he encouraged the team to pray before the third game-and we did notice more peace in our playing and attitude.  We lost by five points as we did in the previous game, but we made two points this time as opposed to no points in the last game. Was this due to our prayers for more peace, awareness, focus, harmony, and connection to God?  (We didn’t pray to win.)

I had many experiences that day which deepened my connection with these friends. And people really appreciated that I was in good shape because of my year of having my only vehicle be a bicycle.  I helped make a few good plays and even made it to first base once! Plus, I didn’t complain when I thought someone was overstepping my boundaries. Sadly, I had caused a lot of strife because of the way I had, in the past, demanded my rights when playing volleyball. My new relaxed attitude helped to build trust once again.

I feel very grateful that I participated. We only won one game, but we held our own against tier one players. We even took a picture at the end with the winnning team, who were very appreciative that we gave them a good fight in spite of our inexperience.   I am glad that what I am learning through The 90 Day Game has yielded great results.

When I got home, I was tired but satisfied. I knew that using other tools of the game, like imagining that my project was done successfully, and not worrying about the outcome–I would have a satisfying completion for my project. I feel happy that the principles of the game are in alignment with the teachings of Jesus, who says, in Matthew 6:26: “Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they?…”

How I yearn to be released from worry and fear, and trust in my Heavenly Father who is my constant companion. This is good for my soul, and good for my brain. I want to have more experiences like I had today.  I am accepting help from every where I can get it, including The 90 Day Game.

Start Your Day Right–For A Simpler, More Satisfying Life

This is a great article with simple suggestions to help you get on track in the morning. One suggestion I liked was–drink warm lemon water instead of coffee first thing. Lemon water is super cleansing and your body is in a cleansing mode all night–so you might as well help it along! Check this out–you will love it.


Team Organizing Class Coming Up: Pilot

I am so excited to plan a Team Organizing Training Program which will help people do the following:

Coordinate a volunteer or paid crew to de-clutter and lightly clean an entire home in a 10 hour work party  while participants have fun, build a sense of community, and the client is motivated and able to immediately start sorting and downsizing.

People who will be overjoyed to learn the skill of facilitating this work party are:

  • Professional Organizers who want to add an additional skill to their tool kit
  • Missions Coordinators or other service-minded leaders in churches who want to help individuals in their community
  • Home owners or renters who have a problem with clutter and want to coordinate their own team organizing work party
  • People who aspire to be professional organizers and want to make a living doing so
  • People who really want to help people and love facilitating groups
  • Youth groups or other already existing groups who want to become professional team organizers
  • People who want to de-clutter and downsize their own homes and just want to learn the skills on how to do this themselves and with their family

You will learn:

  • How to assess a home to determine if it is appropriate for volunteer team organizing  the (“hoarders” type house is not appropriate for this course. That is a separate course coming up)
  • How to prepare the home ahead of time so the team can work quickly and efficiently
  • Techniques for de-cluttering that are amazingly fast and easy for anyone to apply
  • How to help the client help the process and feel relaxed, safe and happy
  • Ways to have fun, stay energized, and build community while doing the work

You will receive a workbook:

  •  With all the check lists you need to make sure every detail is attended to including the exact supplies needed
  • a time line so that all that needs to be done leading up to the work party is accomplished
  • questionnaire for client
  • instruction sheets for helpers
  • categories for sorting
  • signs to copy to post in various places

With 16 years of professional organizing experience under my belt, and being an efficiency expert by nature, I have learned how to streamline and simplify the de-cluttering process so that anyone who can follow clear instructions can  implement doable steps in a few minutes. This means that volunteers can be immediately put to work doing the job that normally might take months for a professional organizer to do at $50-$150 an hour, costing $5000-$10,000 which is out of site for the average person. But paying a team organizing consultant approximately $1000 to get their house to a place where the client can immediately enjoy a clutter-free home thus having the peace of mind to then sort and let go of things is much more nurturing.

The secrets to success of a team organizing work day are:

  • Nothing is thrown away except those things that the client lists as throwable (and we even have a check list for the client to check off for easy decision)
  • Client  sort things and let things go on team organizing work day with the help of a volunteer or paid worker (like a cleaning person they are familiar with) who has a little more training than the others who come.
  • With the house immediately looking decluttered and clean, the client becomes energized and is able to sort through the boxes that are packed up
  • Client packs up everything that is absolutely needed in the next three months. Everything else is packed up and put in a staging area like a garage, spare bedroom or even a storage unit for future sorting.
  • Volunteers pack up everything including things in closets and other storage areas) labeling boxes clearly for future sorting. Everything leaves the often-used living space so that a brand new clutter-free, peaceful environment can be experienced immediately.
  • As much as possible, things will be sorted into categories for easy future sorting, dpending on how much stuff there is, how many people help and how fast they are.
  • Follow up sorting parties can be arranged for quick sorting with the super quick sorting method that I have developed.
  • Every thing is planned to support participants in staying energized and present. Not all will stay the whole day, so people who want to stay a few hours can do so. Details such as healthy snacks, pure water, music that is good for the brain, frequent breaks, going outside, having “light and livelies” which help connect and energize people, and sharing about the process all contribute to people feeling alert and happy.

Training includes hands on experience doing every step that you are taught in an actual home which I have selected as the ideal training grounds. You will experience the satisfaction of helping someone transform their environment as well as gain a fantastic skill. Graduation is for you to actually organizing and coordinate your own job under my supervision with the other class mates being volunteers, Finally, you will do a team organizing job with the help of untrained volunteers.

Being part of this class will yield life-long friendships and if you so desire, ways to connect in the future with these people. When you do this work with others, you really do build friendships and get to know people in a special way. Even if you are taking the course and do not want to be a work party coordinator, you will still gain amazing skills and build relationships. This is transformational work we are doing–both inside and out. Seeing the results of cluttered homes will inspire you to do your best to have peaceful homes with systems that help you stay de-cluttered.

The reason that this is a pilot training is because I have not yet trained people to actually coordinate the work parties because I have had this position.  I want to perfect the training with your feedback and help and thus I am offering a highly discounted price. I am still figuring out how long the course will take and how it will be implemented, but I wanted to see if there is any interest out there, and what kinds of questions you have as I put the final touches on the course offering.

Working Using Your Personal Style to Increase Productivity

An increasing amount of research shows that we all have differing personality styles, and this knowledge helps us to accept ourselves and find ways to live better as we realize that we have certain needs that, if not met, keep us from being all we are meant to be. I really enjoyed this article which, just reading it, helped me to embrace my work style.  The author is brilliant in the way that she gave me permission to love my unique notebook planner with a folded, large, monthly calendar that really helps me to stay on track because I can see the big picture easily.

I also enjoyed that she started her business only owning a bicycle–just like I do. But she didn’t even have a computer or a phone–which I do!

I highly recommend reading this exceptional article that can really help you live more simply and authentically.